Dating Rules-Act Calm, Leads the Relationship

Rule 2: Relax - be totally calm - act like u dont need her

As you can tell these rules are not in any particular order but when you first start dating someone, act calm, be cool. Especially on the first date, be cool. Don't be nervous, don't get all excited and act like a goof.

Don't act desperate around women, just be yourself and not worry about the outcome, dating should be fun!

Rule 3: Be Cocky and Funny - be outgoing and have fun AND BE FUN TO BE AROUND - be charming/gentleman

You will hear me talk about being cocky and funny a lot in this book, it's something I learnt from another dating book.

Being cocky to me means not being afraid to joke around with women. Men are so scared to be themselves around women that they act all uptight and nervous and are not sure what to say.

Don't worry about. Most men by nature are not big mouth arrogant SOB's, so just say what's on your mind.

Talking about sex and other taboo subjects is FINE. Teasing a girl lightly is fine, as long as it's funny and a little bit cocky. Be the fun guy to hang around, make dating fun for you and her.

Rule 4: Don't get emotional even if the woman does - women will test you - nothing to be insecure about

This rule IS SO IMPORTANT when you start dating someone more seriously. I made this mistake a couple of times early on and the relationships ended pretty soon after. If a woman says something to you that makes you feel nervous, angry, upset and you feel like you're going to get overly emotional and say something you will regret, FOR THE GOOD OF YOUR SANITY, Don't say anything.

It's a lot easier to say nothing then it is to take something stupid back. Think before you speak. Women will always do this. Women will blame you for things that are not your fault, things will happen in their lives that make them emotional, you're job is to stay calm.

I'll give you a personal example. I started dating a girl I REALLY liked, but a couple of weeks into the relationship, she told me she was pregnant and she wasn't sure who the father was, because before she started dating me, she was seeing two other guys.

I freaked out, and you probably think, well rightly so, and it was probably for the best things ended, but, breaking up with someone is better when you're the one breaking up with the girl

I know this sounds childish, but it's true. It's a mental thing. Being dumped is a horrible feeling and take's longer to get over.

Rule 5: Lead in the relationship - Always be a man - IE Dad - say things like "you do what you wanna do"

Girls like a guy who will lead in the relationship. I don't mean bossy, I mean lead. It's a manly thing to do.

When a woman asks what you want to do, don't reply back, "I dunno, what do you want to do", take the bull by the horn's and make a decision. I know it's a bit of a pain to be the one who does this all the time, but it really works.

I also added a part about my dad in this rule. He is one of those old fashioned type of guy's, always leads, makes executive decions. He isn't wishy washy.

Also, when women throw things at you that you're not expecting, never over react, I touched on this just before, and I'm going to again.

If a girl says she's going out with male friends, or seeing an ex boyfriend, don't flip your lid, this is the quickest way to push her away.

Just say things like, "you do what you wanna do", "it's your life, I'm not your father, have fun". Saying things like this make you sound confident in yourself and don't really care what she does.

Begging her not to go and doing all sorts of crazy things guys do will push her away for good.

Rule 6: Live an active and full life - you come first - plenty of fish in the sea - Always keep busy

Most of you are probally thinking how am I going to remember all these things, and you're not suppose to really. Use them all, or use just a few, refer to them often and they will sink in over time. But if you only remember one dating rule, this is it.

Always keep busy! Never make too much time for a girl when you first start dating. All the other rules will fall into place if you just follow this one.

When you're sitting at home with nothing to do, you will be tempted to want to ring any girl you're dating too much and you will become too available.

If she's says lets make plans for tuesday, say no you're busy, how about wednesday. Get a hobby, play a sport, go out more with your friends and if you don't have any friends, make some!

Keep your mind busy and everything else will fall into place because you will be too busy with your life to care what she is doing. She will be just a nice little extra in your life, not your whole life! Keep busy guys!